

Dealing With an Unfaithful Partner
The pain that one feels after being cheating on can be unimaginable, especially if you’re deeply in love with someone and didn’t have any reason to suspect them. Being caught off-guard can make people react in a multitude of ways; unfortunately, if it’s not something you saw coming, there’s very little you can do to prepare yourself. Hopefully, this post will give you some insight into what you can do if you discover that your partner is seeing someone behind your back.
Calm Down
If you have the unfortunate pleasure of catching your partner in the act, you’ll be tempted to lash out. However, doing so will only end up making things worse for you, especially if someone gets hurt in the process. The best thing you can do is leave the room and get some space, if you want to lash out on by kicking to door, do so, as it beats the alternative of causing someone pain. After all, we’re only human, any negative energy that is building up inside of you should be released in the safest way possible.

Find out If They Really Cheated
If you only suspect that you partner is cheating, you should gather as much evidence as possible before confronting them. The last thing you want to do is accuse them of doing something they’re not. When it comes to cheating or having an affair, it’s important to note that sex isn’t always a part of it. It could be that your partner has only kissed someone else or is in fact having an emotional affair. Regardless of what’s going on, it’s important for you to get to the truth before making any final decisions.
Ask Questions
If your partner is found to be cheating, you may find it helpful to find out why. We’re not saying that the excuses they give will be valid, but sometimes, it’s good to know what went wrong in the relationship, especially if it’s something that could be prevented in future. Keep in mind, this will be one of the hardest conversations you’ve ever had, learning about your partner’s intimate dealings with another person isn’t the best way to spend an evening.
Getting a Check-Up
Getting a STD test after learning your partner has been unfaith is vital, especially if you’ve been having unprotected sex with them.

Give Yourself Time to Heal
Jumping into new relationship isn’t the best thing for you to do right now as you’ll be carrying around a lot of baggage. Not only will you be carrying baggage, chances are, you’ll still have romantic feelings for your partner, despite their discretion. What you need now is time to heal so that you can move past this unfortunate incident.
Focus on the Future
As tempting as it may be to dwell on how your partner wronged you, looking towards the future is the best thing you can do right now. Having hope in the fact that tomorrow can be better is what will carry you through these dark times. Getting caught up in the things that happened in your past will only keep you trapped, unable to move onto bigger and better things. Eventually, you should be able to see yourself in a state in which you can forgive your partner so you can let go of any ill-will you felt towards them. Remember, just because you may forgive them for what they’ve done, you’re not excusing their bad behaviour.
While there are couples who decide to stay together after one party has been unfaithful, it’s not an easy thing to do. If you want to stay with your partner, you can’t do so with the thought of you one day getting even by cheating on them with someone else. If you want to give your relationship another try, make sure that you’re doing so for the right reasons.