The Beauty of the Chase
The difference between chasing someone and being a nuisance is a fine line. You’ll often see in Hollywood movies that stalkerish tendencies pay off with the man finally getting with the girl of his dreams. However, in reality, things tend to play out a little differently. While there’s something about being chased that women like, if you push too hard, it’ll come off as creepy, especially if the girl doesn’t find anything about you alluring. If a girl says no, you’re better off calling it a day and moving on, that being said, the ability to read the room is important when it comes to pursuing a love interest.
Is It Okay to Chase Women?
Before a relationship begins, you’ll often find that in the early stages there was one person in pursuit of the other. It doesn’t matter if it was the man or the woman doing the chasing, just know that someone had to make the first move; had someone not taken the initiative, no relationship would’ve been able to form. So, in this respect, yes, it’s perfectly fine for a man to chase a girl he’s interest, just be tactful about it. There’s nothing wrong with flirting, it’s all part of the dating game, you simply have to know how to respect people’s boundaries.
Reading the Signs
The signs that a girl is enjoying the chase are what you should be looking out for as a pursuer. Is she smiling when she’s around you? Does she like to touch/stand close to you? Does she fidget and/or play with her hair? When it comes to flirting, you should pay attention to the girl’s actions. By doing this, you’ll be able to gauge how ‘into it’ she is, even if she doesn’t express it verbally. With that said, no matter what actions she was/is displaying, as soon as she says no, that’s it, walk away.
Being on the Other Side
While this isn’t something that happens a lot to guys, more and more we’re seeing women starting to pursue the men they life. This is something that men are welcoming of as it takes a lot of the pressure off them having to make the first move. If you find yourself being courted by a woman you’re not romantically interested in, think about how you feel in that situation. Soon enough, you’ll be able to empathise with a woman’s position when being chased by a guy she doesn’t like but doesn’t want to hurt either.
Respecting Her Decision
All too often, especially in a nightclub setting, some guys don’t seem to be able to take no for an answer. Rather than letting things go, some guys seem incapable of moving on, don’t be that guy, show some class. As a matter of fact, you may even find that your ability to walk away increases the attraction a girl may have for you, it’s strange the way the world works, isn’t it?